Wednesday, January 22, 2014

Truths Not Often Told

I don't know about all of you but all through the planning process of my wedding I had all my friends telling me that I should do whatever I liked and that the wedding was all about me.  But the reality I kept getting hit in the face with was quite the opposite.

It is the start of a life time of two families learning to share and thus... often comes with it's clashes... unless you are among the super blessed (to which all the rest of us are super jealous :D).  It is a celebration for sure but often I found that I needed to cave to what would be best for all those around me then what exactly it was that I wanted.

It isn't a bad thing but it is a rude awakening from the glamorous idea of being able to follow our every whim!  Don't be discouraged ( you're not alone!) if you are at times following a "rocky" path of planning.  In the end it will be an amazing day if only for it is the first day of your new life!

There are certain decisions that you should be sure to lay claim to what you want.  Each bride/couple has different things that are close to their hearts.  One of those for me was my photographer.  There is no one else on a wedding day you will see as much as your wedding photographer.  You won't see you bridesmaids as much, you won't see the groom as much... you are with this person for hours and hours for the most important day of your life.

For me, both as a bride and now as a photographer, it is one of the  most important decisions to make: not only that you like the person's work but also who they are/their personality.  If you love their work but find them annoying... their work won't keep you company for 8 hours on your wedding day.  There are lots of wedding photographers who have beautiful work (I know I know I am a wedding photographer telling you there are other options but let's be honest there SO are).  You just need to figure out which of those great photographers, which fit your desires, that you also enjoy or at least easily tolerate their company.

Some people don't like me... I know I just shocked you to your very core!  But some people don't like me, and no matter if they love my work it doesn't help them because there is no way that they want me there for every moment of their once in a life time day.

So here's my question to you:  To those who are married: what was it like?  What did you like or dislike?
To those looking towards your soon upcoming marriage or your far in the distance future:  No matter how traditional or completely nontraditional your wedding will be, what do you want your focus to be on that day?

Live. Love. Loud.

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