Weddings are expensive. Which can be disconcerting if you get married as I did: with little to no money. If you are engaged or soon to be engaged you need to really stop and think:
The first thing I suggest for you to do is stop and take a moment to figure out what is most important to you. Ask around to those who have gone before you and ask what they were their favorite parts of the wedding or their least favorite parts.
When I got married it was young and I didn't take my own advice. I went the route of trying to spend as little money as possible. As a result there are some things I don't mind having cut corners:
I wore a used dress
We did family only
We had limited flowers
We didn't do favors
Chris wore dress clothes instead of a tux
My sister did my hair
A friend did our music
We set up our own chairs and paid a friend to take the down and wait for the truck pick up
Those are all things I don't mind. They are moments that passed and didn't bother me much. There were fleeting moments of doubt but that is about it.
There are two regrets to my wedding day:
First a friend did our wedding photography as a favor and I am eternally grateful but were I going back I wish I had invested in the only thing that is left when the day finishes... the proof :D
I wish I had not caved on having a wedding cake. I wish I had done something else... like an ice cream bar or pie or??? But that is just a silly thing.
My point isn't to make you go through my memory lane but to give you an idea of what I mean. You and your significant other need to think through what's important to you.
For me a dress wasn't important but it could be a huge deal for you.
A big wedding wasn't me but it could be the most important thing to you!
We didn't have a big dinner but that could be a family tradition that is the world to you.
You get the drift. You need to think through and make a list of your top ten.. THE most important things to both of you. From that list you will come out with your perfect wedding for the two of you... and you might just get to have a lovely date in the process of figuring it all out!
Here's to your amazing wedding being everything you ever dreamed!
Live. Love. Loud.